Anyway, I was randomly thinking about this movie today (ironically as, but not because, the Union Station tram was passing by downtown LA, close to the "bench"). I thought about that line. This is not verbatim but the line that goes something like this: "One day I woke up and knew he was the one. I never felt that with you." And I thought about this for a while. And then I had this really, really obvious question (that I should have had immediately after I watched the movie):
Do people really feel that way about love? Meaning, is it just something that's there? (Question applies to both guys and girls... and if you can, please answer the question in the comments below...)
Because asking that question begets this question..
What happens when that feeling disappears?
By definition, feel-ing is temporary, whether it is a physical sensation or an experience of emotion (I know a long term injury or a traumatic experience makes this definition seem a bit understated, as well as the fact that I don't know how the marriage between Summer and her husband turns out. But, for the sake of argument, I am going to play devil's advocate). Which means, does that feeling that Summer had about her new husband appear in a way similar to Tom's feelings about Summer, in the ways that Tom developed his feelings (granted, they were somewhat superficial and 18 year oldish), or was it just that "I just knew he was the one?"
Because, based off the definition of feeling, it will end. That feeling. That "it" factor. That "I just know."
Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't have any chemistry between you and your significant other. Or that you should not be looking for any sort of feeling within you.
But what I am essentially asking is, should that feeling be the foundation of a relationship?
Because if it is, I'm never going to be in one. My feelings come and go.
Commitment, on the other hand, is not. Whether legal, or moral, or Christ-centered, there is a standard that must be met. And, personally, I would like to have the one that will last forever (hint: it's not the first two). For that to be a reality... love needs to be more than a feeling. It needs to be a commitment.
